Episode 198: Identity Series // I am Befriended with Sheridan Voysey

Hole In My Heart Podcast

Friday, May 19, 2023 - 43 minutes

What is it about adult friendships that can make them so hard to cultivate?

People move, change, or we simply lose touch. What is the secret of friendship making (and keeping)? (Is there one?) Author and founder of The Friendship Lab, Sheridan Voysey, is back on the podcast today to help us unpack these questions as well as:

—Why is friendship often overlooked?
—Is it true that 1 out of 4 adults in the Western world has no close friends?
—What are the four characteristics of a true friend?
—How does knowing we are befriended relate to our identity in Christ?

You’re welcome to pull up a seat at the friendly podcast table!

//Highlights:

“We have a huge friendship crisis going on in the Western world right now. Here in the United Kingdom, somewhere between 20 to 25 percent of all British adults…have no close friends. And, 1 in 10 people…have no friends at all. That’s roughly echoed in America…with 30 to 40 percent of [American] people over the age of 35 being chronically lonely… Around 1 in 4 people in Australia have no close friends. So, we have this 25 percent rate floating around the Western world, and 10 percent have no friends at all. I really felt God saying, ‘What if you were to focus on that figure, and bringing it down? What would that take?’ And I thought, ‘My goodness, a book would not scratch that itch.’” —Sheridan Voysey

“This whole stigma around loneliness, stigma around friendlessness—everybody in the world (even if they simply go and move houses) will find themselves lonely for a time and need to make new friends. So, we all go through this, and we need to de-stigmatize it.” —Sheridan Voysey

//Question of the Week:

In what outfit would artist draw your cartoon character? (Because you wear it so often?)

//Do the Next Thing:

—Watch the video at: www.wcsg.org/all-podcasts
—Listen to Sheridan’s last episode with us about wrestling through infertility and other life disappointments: https://lauriekrieg.com/podcast/when-life-doesnt-go-as-planned/
—Learn more about Sheridan’s Friendship Lab: www.friendshiplab.org
—Read Sheridan’s work: www.sheridanvoysey.com/thecreed
—Sheridan mentions the book, Theology of Play by Jurgen Moltmann